In marriage counseling, couples are encouraged to make time for each other. This way, you and your spouse could communicate well, do the things that you used to do, and understand each other more. The lack of time for the marriage may have caused the problems you are experiencing now, so it is a must to prioritize your relationship again. Rather than focusing on the things that make you busy every day, try to make some time for your marriage.
The Rules In Prioritizing Your Marriage
Spending time with somebody is easy, paying attention is another story. With all of the things that take away our attention from something important, such as cell phones, tablets, or televisions, it must be somewhat challenging to focus on a single task. The first rule in prioritizing your marriage is to be mentally present - taking away the things that take your mind to something else. This is often taught in marriage counseling.
* Be Mentally Present!
If you are scheduling your "alone" time this week, it's not the best time for you to be waiting for a business call from your secretary. It's definitely not the time to be more concerned redecorating your kitchen for Thanksgiving. Pay attention to your spouse if you are laying out your week plans.
* Be Flexible.
Marriage counseling will let you understand that your plans will not always turn out the way you wanted it to be. Sometimes, other factors affect your plans - if you and your partner are out in a park and it suddenly rains, or you are about to visit the museum but it's closed. In building your marriage, both of you need to be flexible to whatever stuff life brings you that affects your plans. Instead of going straight home when your plans didn't work out, find other interesting things that you can do together as a couple.
* Be Mentally Present!
Taking turns in planning your activities doesn't mean that each of you is responsible of "planning out" the things you need to do. In every relationship, there's always someone who plans the activities, but it's very important that the two of you have to agree with it. If you are the "entertainment director" in your relationship, be happy about it instead of being resentful that the other one hasn't planned a date for a long time.
Lastly, having a good attitude in planning your priorities is a must. If you're the better "planner", make sure that you are having fun in doing it. Being thankful for the things you do together, even if you've chosen a terrible restaurant, are a great way to spend time with each other. If you're in a marriage counseling program, take this opportunity to spend quality time with your partner.
To plan successful activities, you have to consider the factors that can affect your plans. Marriage counseling provides you with the clear objective of these activities. Your budget will also play an important role in your plans. If you're willing to spend $200 dollars on therapy, why would it be difficult for you to spend $40 on a babysitter so you and your partner could have some "alone" time on a date?
The Rules In Prioritizing Your Marriage
Spending time with somebody is easy, paying attention is another story. With all of the things that take away our attention from something important, such as cell phones, tablets, or televisions, it must be somewhat challenging to focus on a single task. The first rule in prioritizing your marriage is to be mentally present - taking away the things that take your mind to something else. This is often taught in marriage counseling.
* Be Mentally Present!
If you are scheduling your "alone" time this week, it's not the best time for you to be waiting for a business call from your secretary. It's definitely not the time to be more concerned redecorating your kitchen for Thanksgiving. Pay attention to your spouse if you are laying out your week plans.
* Be Flexible.
Marriage counseling will let you understand that your plans will not always turn out the way you wanted it to be. Sometimes, other factors affect your plans - if you and your partner are out in a park and it suddenly rains, or you are about to visit the museum but it's closed. In building your marriage, both of you need to be flexible to whatever stuff life brings you that affects your plans. Instead of going straight home when your plans didn't work out, find other interesting things that you can do together as a couple.
* Be Mentally Present!
Taking turns in planning your activities doesn't mean that each of you is responsible of "planning out" the things you need to do. In every relationship, there's always someone who plans the activities, but it's very important that the two of you have to agree with it. If you are the "entertainment director" in your relationship, be happy about it instead of being resentful that the other one hasn't planned a date for a long time.
Lastly, having a good attitude in planning your priorities is a must. If you're the better "planner", make sure that you are having fun in doing it. Being thankful for the things you do together, even if you've chosen a terrible restaurant, are a great way to spend time with each other. If you're in a marriage counseling program, take this opportunity to spend quality time with your partner.
To plan successful activities, you have to consider the factors that can affect your plans. Marriage counseling provides you with the clear objective of these activities. Your budget will also play an important role in your plans. If you're willing to spend $200 dollars on therapy, why would it be difficult for you to spend $40 on a babysitter so you and your partner could have some "alone" time on a date?
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